Love vs 4giveness

It’s so easy 2 say I love u, but it’s so hard 2 4give!

Live long enough & you will get hurt.  I used to think being hurt was all bad.  After all who in their right mind wants to have a broken heart?  Who wants to be lonely?

Absolutely no one!!

But the fact of the matter is it’s not a matter of if it’ll happen, but when it will happen.

Did you know that your body produces a chemical called oxytocin.  It’s even called the cuddle hormone.  Since it’s released when you hug someone.  It’s a neuro hormone that actually cause you to crave physical contact from friends & family.  It’s actually a stress hormone that literally wants you to reach out to others for support.  Crazy huh??

But I digress, when someone hurts you what’s your gut say do?  Retaliate? Forgive them? Cut off all ties?  None of them are inherently right or wrong.  It’s more of your view of them, but I challenge to think about it a different way.  Forgiveness of another isn’t really about them… it’s about you & I.  Harboring unforgiveness in your heart only hurts you!  It’s akin to drinking poison & expecting the other person to get sick.  Never gonna happen!

Now i can hear you saying, but “you don’t know what they did to me!”  You’re right I don’t, but the premise is still the same.  Forgive them esp if they don’t know what they did to you.  You at least owe them that… to tell them what they did.  If they don’t accept responsibility then you have your answer & move on in peace with your life.

I’ve had girlfriends cheat on me, people steal from me, talking about behind my back & then smiling in my face.  I had my best friend just about destroy my car when I let him borrow it.  I get it & it sucks, but let it go for your own sake & peace of mind.

Find your tribe!  Find people who you can be yourself & they love & accept you for being the beautiful person that you are!  Let your light shine.  Be a beacon of light in a world of darkness.

Love & Light,

DC

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Author: DC

A walking contradiction... What you see isn’t what you get. To get to know the essence you need to open the book and read. An enigma; giving, selfless, conceited, arrogant, loner, author, friend, confidant, trainer, model, actor, and life coach. It really depends on your relationship with him. To someone who doesn’t know him or decides to judge the book by the cover; he is viewed as conceited, arrogant or even mean. Which is the exact opposite of who he is. He’s more of a shy introvert around those he doesn’t know or isn’t comfortable with. Get below the quiet exterior and you’ll find a heart that, to know is to love. He tries to live his life literally walking in love. He would give the shirt off his back to help. Raised by his mother, with no role model on what a man should be. He set out to be different than what he saw in the community. Men who abandoned their responsibilities to pursue whatever tickled their fancy was the norm. These men didn’t care about the damage caused by their selfish actions. He thought the road would be easy, but alas, it proved him wrong. Society had changed dramatically in a short time. People seemed to perceive his love as a weakness. Or perhaps they had not come across a person, who accepts them for them. Always waiting for the other shoe to drop, they tried to manipulate a gift to their advantage. Left alone most of the time, he started to set his pain to print. Never intending for anyone to read it. However, God had a different plan in mind. He would use DC’s pain to show the women; that there are men out there, who do feel profoundly deeper than they think. To reach out to the masses that don’t know how to get others to understand what they are dealing with or have dealt with. He simply wanted to help people on a larger scale.

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